Just a short and simple reminder that your children are listening to you, learning from you. Are you teaching through words, thoughts and actions that you value yourself by Taking Care Of You? Or are you teaching, instead, that there isn't enough time or reason to do so?
Lately, I've been reminded of this by my children. Hearing words come from my son have me thinking "How rude!" and then I realize, "Hey, that is a saying of mine". Ooh, touché! Or, seeing my daughter holding her arm out (because she asked for something, I didn't hear the request and now she's impatiently waiting) and then saying "I'm not going to hold this out forever". Yikes, a double blow.
As you can see, impatience and sarcasm have been my blunders lately. Every time I get overwhelmed and start throwing out this kind of talk, there are several other negative things going on that they don't see or hear. I am not breathing well, I am tensing my body and I am feeding my racing thoughts to fuel the frustration fire even more. But, the part that gets me most is not what it's doing to me, it's what I am doing to them. Along with that is the always guilt-inducing thought, "I'm setting such a bad example".
Are they learning how to calm themselves? No. Are they learning how to vent it out on others? Yes. I could go on but it boils down to this: Are they being taught to take care of themselves so they can better share themselves with others? Nope.
So, as my kids enjoy a 2-day stay with their Aunt before school starts up again, I am going to enjoy my alone time. I want them to come back to a mom who has taken her time out and is ready to play nicely again!
And, as Lisa learned, sometimes they don't forget our slipups! ;-)
Until next time...Take Care Of You!
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